It took a lot of courage to actually write this post as this is a very intimate and embarrassing topic but I will share my story. I have never admitted this to anyone, and so I think this post is a bit of a therapy. The truth is - I have an "imaginary friend"- a lot actually.
Please don't judge me, it's something I have absolutely no control over. I have had 'them" for the most part of my life and they have grown with me all through the years. I'm not crazy, neither am I sad or depressed. Most people who have imaginary friends are mostly introverts, or people that have been or are subject to abuse or trauma. They use this as an opportunity to vent or heal. We all know, a lot of kids have imaginary friends and it is believed that they get rid of them when they are older(but it's not always the case)
Interestingly, i never had imaginary friends as a little child, it all started in my teen years. In real life, i actually do live a normal life, i have a couple of friends( i'm not an introvert at all, I have loads of fun) decent upbringing, I'm not an only child, but over the years, I've found myself creating these 'characters' and playing out their lives. In the privacy of my room, i would create situations for entertainment, i tell you my characters have a full life of events,and a consistent life history. Right now, I have over 50 characters with names, surnames, locations, dates of birth, spouses, children, siblings, and It has been my routine for years. The only problem is-- I am all of them. I talk as them, and act like them. Like in real life, they have their ups and downs, they laugh, cry, and do everything real life people do. Sadly, some of my characters have passed on.
I've gotten to a stage where I want to get rid of them but it's hard. I'm so attached to them but I think it's about time I stopped. When I'm alone, I find myself slipping into character. It's just so natural. I feel very weird about it and thats why I never told anyone. I just need to know if there are people like me out there?
To be continued..........there's more!
I have imaginary characters in my head too,its just a secret well kept. Not anymore I guess!! : )
ReplyDeleteThat's interesting ! Then, what made u create them?
ReplyDeleteMehn! I don miss dis blog o! So u av imaginary characters???lmaoooooooo . U weird no b small sha? Y not spend ur time doing oda things. Like watchn tv, surfn d net, or nacking sef? I swear dis is funny die!!!! But I respect ur honesty sha!
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ReplyDeleteNice write up, u aren't alone. I have them too, right from when I was 6yrs old. The thing is that I am actually use to mine now. I think am even worse, not told any of my friends this before. I think they will judge me. I make up friends and wait till I have them in real life. I actually opened few links 4 my imaginary friends. I know it sounds weird and all, it makes me not to cry or feel depress. I can stay in a place without doing anything but imagine myself talking and chatting with them. Most of my imaginary friends have families, mine is more like a show or movie kind off a thing. I am actually correcting mine now, I try to make friends now with real people mostly online or even hanging out. I watch lots of television now. Sometimes, I see myself falling back to it, I need to accept the fact that I am not alone in this imaginary world of mine.
Wow! Its so gud 2 knw that there are people like me out there(hugs) I'm trying to correct mine also. Jst worried about being a mother and still avin these moments.
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DeleteI 2nd rude boy's comment, i have missed this blog, soo much!thanx 4 coming back!i think its really wierd 2 have imaginary characters, at this age. Loool. Not bad wierd, just wierd! And u have over 50 friends? Wooow. It just shows u have a v.high imaginative power, so keep it up, i guess!
ReplyDeleteAwww... Bless you Oboku @ ur last sentence. I also feel its weird that's y I neva told any1.but wat av seen so far, dere r quite a number of people like me.
DeleteBisodun you're special! Have you gone for psychological evaluation? You mite have mental issues? Anywayz, I have imaginations, loads sef. I imagine sleeping with a lot of hot guys, as in, its bad, I masturbate all night, wishing they are the ones doing things to me. I've got loads of vibrators. I have fucked quite a couple of celebrities, idris elba, reggie bush, and chad ochochinco, gosh! Please r there peeps like me out there also? Need to know?????
ReplyDeleteU r jst a pervy perv! Me 2 sha I no fit lie! I don fuck omotola jalade fromm behind sef, dat er wonder yansh, I don fuck mercy jonson, but I cover er face, I fuck kim k every night, and so many others, so your not alone. Every1 get fantasy.
DeleteHey dear,don't feel weird...there's nothing new under the sun..I used to have an alter named Biola..it was cool for a while but later I grew out of her. Alters (not the freaky ones u see in movies o) are born most times out when we are afraid to be someone or do something so we create a character in our head who can.the deal is some people don't grow out of these chracters and take bold steps or risks..so my advice?let go and do!
ReplyDeleteInteresting @ Biola ur alter ego! Great u've been able to overcome it! I hope I also get over mine also.
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ReplyDeleteDoes day dreamin u r somebdy else count if it does den I guess am on dis train too
ReplyDeleteI actually did some research abt dis condition, its called maladaptive daydreaming. I think daydreaming to be someone else falls within this category, but its all good. We can all work on it together,lol! Welcome on board!
DeleteYh!! I have dz charaters in my head 2, dey r nt jz very defined like urs! But dey r rilllllllly fun x_x
ReplyDeleteIts called ogbanje..put simply you be witch Lol
ReplyDeleteLoooool Another platform for funky witches....attention seekers...everyone in d world talks to demselves evry now and then when dey r in any situation...innermind na character too? Abeg make una go find somwhr to cast ur wichcrafts jo..ok u got me to check ur blog out. Happy now?
ReplyDeletei never gave it much thought til i read ds blog.ts superfun havin characters u create t talk to.so much fun.it jst shws hw creatv u r.i have characters frm al parts of d world.wen i ws younger,i used to love being alone so id talk to my friends.i stil do till tomorrow.its fun!ts mor like talking to urslf.i thought it ws normal til i read ds blog.
ReplyDeleteSeems like dere a lot of people in this situation,even authors, Enid Blyton was known for having this condition which helped with her creativity(books and all)
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ReplyDeleteI have only heard about imaginary friends in movies and books. Sometimes they are good and other times bad. When it's extreme I guess that's when it's called split personality. I guess you have made a good decision to deal with now before its too late. You might have to engage yourself in other things. But most importantly pray about it. Guess what? you can write a book about your different characters and then say goodbye. It might be hard but if you really want to do it, you can.
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Bisodun I can totally relate. Ur not alone in this. I've had mine since I was a kid and I kept thinking I'll outgrow them but I didn't. They followed me into my teens and now in my mid/late 20s they're still here. These days I worry about getting married and still having them. Like you I'm Not an introvert either, I have siblings and friends but my imaginary friends and relationships are so special to me. We talk together, laugh together, cry together, advice each other, we even have quarels. I know for those who don't have them it will be difficult to understand and u may think us weird but.... I told my best friend about them a couple of times but she just doesn't get it, she thinks I'm weird but when I gisted her about one of them (my imaginary xters) she was so intrigued and suggested I write a novel which I'm thinking of doing. We who have these obviously have good imaginations so I guess I should put mine to good use and maybe it will help me outgrow them finally. I'll miss them dearly if/when I do tho. *sobs*
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Valerie(hugs), I knw jst how u feel, u shud definitely put it to good use, I do that,I've written a few short stories as a result of being very creative and picturing all these differnt characters.
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