A few days ago, I was doing some serious thinking and then this issue popped up, 'warning signs'. I'm sure we've all at some point ignored warning signs and done things we knew could end up really messed up? But then again we all feel it wouldn't hurt to take risks right? As the saying goes 'you never know', so we go ahead and take major risks! Hmm.....okay so this topic would most likely be linked to relationships and businesses but it also includes your health, career, academics, friendships, religion, addictions etc. Often times, we see danger signs but pay no attention to them instead we ward them off.
The moment i saw Bade, i knew something about him was a bit unusual. He wasn't your typical Naija guy. His jeans fit like a second skin, accentuating every muscle on his thigh. They were burgundy in color and as if that wasn't weird enough, glued to the left side of his plaid shirt was a brooch. Yes a brooch! That was the first time I'd see a guy rocking a brooch(in Nigeria at least) He was very neat, fresh faced, well shaped eyebrows and even offered me hand lotion when I asked my cousin Tara for hers. Tara had been dating Bade for over a year and they weren't playing, they had started talking marriage. They were a fine looking couple and dressed to kill all the time but every time I saw Bade, his style struck me as too feminine, so I wasn't shocked when he came out of the closet two years later- he was gay. I didn't get why Tara was screaming the whole building down when she found out, the signs were there!!!!!!
I saw the signs, Tara probably did but chose to ignore them or maybe she was just in denial. In conclusion, there are a million and one things we sense or know are not right.We know it in our hearts, but take them for granted, making excuses or are just simply non-challant. Some times, friends and family see the signs on your behalf and advice you but you get all defensive, sometimes its a warning in your dream, sometimes, it's just a feeling, sometimes its your instincts. Guys, let's not ignore these warning signs, let's act now! Follow your instincts, they never fail you. To be forewarned is to be forearmed! Just a thought.
Please share some of the warning signs you took for granted but later regretted because you got into trouble! A lot of us could learn from you.
I had a dream recently that my relationship isn't going far. I know it is a warning, my dreams are always accurate. But I don't want to end my relationship based on a dream. I'm really scared :(
ReplyDeleteSweetheart ps dnt take ur dream for granted, I knw it mite hurt 2 call it quits but ur beta safe dan sori. Same tin happened with my fiance( we had even done introductn) I was too scared to let go, plus I was 30 years old and people were saying I was too old to be frntn. but I was bld enuf 2 end it, I'm now married 2 a wwonderful man with kids.
DeleteWow. That was a real strong thing you did. I'm going to try my best. Yu've encouraged me :)
DeleteOhh I was warned before I started dating my ex. The way he jumped arnd my frnds. The way he kept flirting with them in my presence, I saw it all oo. But I ignored. Was so angry when I found out he was asking one of them out. Was even angrier wen I realised he had another girlfrnd somewhre else, &I was just assisting her.
ReplyDeleteBeautiful writeup Abi!its soooo true!we al get warnings in form of gutt feelings or even sumtyms people literally telling us not to.its really good to either follow your feelinngs or atleast find out how true they are!
ReplyDeleteD signs are always there. True
ReplyDeleteI honestly love ur blog Mis B! U talk about really deep issues but v.relatable at the same time. I def. Have had my fare share of warning signs, but was living in denial or 2 optimistic 2 see it!i had a v.dear friend to me who was xtremely competitive and always bitter about my success, i paid no attention to it and carried on with the friendship until she slept with my boyfriend.. I also had an ex who every1 said was dodgy and denying d existence of our relationship, etc but i believed him when he said they were untrue, lo and behold we are not 2getha anymore. Moral of the story is, warning signs are there for a reason, so BE WARNED pple!! God bless..xxObk
ReplyDeleteNa wa o! Na so so relatinship tory.warning signs applies to everytn even businesses,I got jilted a few mnths ago by one bastrd my cousin intrduced me to, I swear I doubted the bastard but my cousin assured me. U guys shud sha be careful with who you do business with. When kasala burst na story u go dey hear oo! Follow ur instincts.
ReplyDeletenice one biso, i always love rude boy's comment. lol. warning signs are very important but i dont know y i always ignore them, then later regret not listening to my signs!!!! i think i need help..
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