CATCH 22

Let's face it,nearly one in three employees say they have a bad boss. Is it the yelling, throwing and ranting,or the one that takes credit for your work and never gives a positive feedback? A controlling, intrusive, petty, bully? or the one that's harassed you sexually or even went as far as hitting you? Whatever your description is, we've all at some point in our lives had 'horrible bosses!'. However, bad bosses aren't necessarily bad people, but can definitely make your work challenging. A few people have had lovely bosses, rare but true. I know some of us have never had bosses(self-employed, students et al) but in this case, a boss is someone you've or have had to report to, e.g a lecturer at school, a loyal customer etc. So I ask..

DESCRIBE YOUR WORST BOSS?

ANYONE NEED SECURITY?

Security is freedom from doubt, fear and anxiety. A lot of us have been able to provide ourselves with sufficient security with the help of Atairu, Hassan, barbed wires, security cameras, vigilantes, dogs, and even jazz,(lol!) to give us maximum protection or so we think. But the type of security I'm talking about is 'emotional security' - even the wealthiest have little or no control over it. Are you insecure? Honestly, have you sat down to ask yourself that question? I think to a certain degree, a lot of us are insecure about one thing or another. Insecure about our looks, jobs, relationships, social status, financial position and so on. However, insecurity in relationships is what has captioned my interest.


Insecurity is a feeling of uncertainty, a lack of confidence or assurance. A lot of people have doubts about their partners, probably as a result of lack of trust, low self esteem, jealousy, confusion, paranoia, and the fear of rejection. Do you find yourself snooping on your partner, trying to find out what they're up to, perhaps, if there's another "she/he'?. Are you obsessed with checking your partner's cell phone, pocket, emails and underwear? You can't help but eavesdrop on your partner's conversation because even though the caller ID shows 'Boss' you feel it's actually 'Bose', his sexy co-worker, with hips that sure don't lie! Do you feel the need to be reassured severally that your partner loves you, pestering for those three words, 'I love you'? Or you're worried sick when your partner hasn't called in a day?. Do you fear that you're not good enough for your partner? If you've answered 'yes' to the above questions, you possess traits of an insecure person. But guess what? It's not a sin!


Women tend to be more insecure in relationships. An insecure woman would most likely exhibit either of these traits- keep her distance emotionally; she doesn't like to be too attached to her man for fear of rejection, or she becomes very clingy, and is tagged the 'psycho girlfriend/wife'. Women who are insecure have their reasons, perhaps, it could be their upbringing(dysfunctional background) past relationships ( the loser ex), social and societal factors( the need to be in a relationship), an unfaithful partner, low self esteem,sexual, physical and emotional abuse.

At the end of the day, a lot of us are insecure, even the most beautiful. I've been insecure in the past. Damn! Some guys sure messed with my head, I cant even lie! Whatever your reasons are,one thing I'll say is ' why kill yourself over a guy?' If you don't trust your man, why are you with him again? You go gaga, when you see him with a girl, you squeeze through tiny windows in order to nab him with 'that girl', when he's stepping out, you play detective monitoring his every move, you check his GPS to see the exact miles he covers each day, you pretend to be someone else in a chat group to see if he'll stray, you beg friends and family to monitor him, you pay to track his phone and car or you burst into his house unannounced, omo you get time o!( takes a deep breath). All these will send you to an early grave, it's not worth it!. However, if your insecurities are as a result of a loser ex, sexual abuse, societal pressure, dysfunctional background, and your current man is quite decent,please seek counseling, talk to someone that will guide you, don't let him suffer for another man's sin!


Are you insecure in your relationship? Why are you insecure? How can we overcome them? Please drop a line.........................




















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CATCH 22

I'm sure you guys are aware of the nude pics of some "Nigerian married woman" that leaked on the net last week? If you're not aware, YOU ARE STALE O! But lemme quickly brief you. So last week, highly distasteful pictures of a married woman in her early forties, was circulating on the net. They were naked pics and when I say naked, she was stark naked! Nothing at all, just the way Baba God made her, plus more sef!. I almost died from shock. Apparently, the gist was that her lover(a colleague) took those pics when the going was good. Things got bad and he set her up! He posted nude pics of her on the net. In fact, it was the talk of the town last week. To be honest, I kinda felt bad for her. I began to wonder, "How does this woman feel right now?" "What will her husband say/do? " What will happen to her career as a top banker?(gist is that, she's a banker). So many questions!

Okay so lets stop feeling holier than thou here o!  Most adults, 18 and above have sent a sexually suggestive, semi nude or really nude pic to someone, sometime in their life. Okay, you weren't put on blast(Hallelujah!) but it could have been you!

So I ask, ladies if your nude pics leak all over the net,or for guys, if you find your wife's  nudes pics all over  net(you didn't take the pics in this case) what will you do? Thanks to BBM, twitter et al, daddy, mummy, pastor, in-laws, colleagues have seen the pics, SERIOUSLY, WHAT WILL YOU DO? It's a "what if" question, so try and put yourself in her shoes or her husband's shoes, even if you would never do such.

THE SNATCHER'S CLUB

Dressed in a slinky black dress and sexy stiletto heels,  Morning-glory (yes,that's her name)spots a fine looking chap staring at her, more like staring at her 34DD bossoms, held up with a pink lacy bra. With eyes like that of a hawk, she immediately does a quick scan to assess if he meets up to "standards".
"Mehn! This guy na 10 over 10, she gushes to her friends.
"Yea he's not bad, but baby girl look at him well, something disqualifies him"
"What? All I see is hotness! She says, shaking uncontrollably  like a spirit has descended upon her.
"My dear look well, shine your eyes"
Squinting to have a clearer view, she immediately spots a gold band wrapped around the finger between his pinkie and middle finger.
"Oh...is it the ring?"
"Exactly......"
"Even better, that's my type!" she says wiggling her hips towards him.


A few years ago, I had the opportunity to witness a messy fight between two beautiful women, of course it was over "a man" (I don't still understand why women fight over men?).An aunt who lived with us, was involved in a husband snatching scandal. It wasn't funny o! The husband owner(lol!)  baptised my aunt( husband snatcher) with poo and my oh my , it is still one of the most disgusting things I have ever seen. The slimy poo slipped down her face, with tiny particles popping into her mouth as she opened it to scream( Lord have mercy!).  That day, I swore never to take any woman's man. The whole street heard about their nasty fight, and before we knew it, the gist was trending in the hood.

The "husband/boyfriend snatching" act is becoming a common trend.Each day, a woman somewhere in the world, is  labelled  a "husband/boyfriend snatcher. So I ask, what makes a woman a husband/boyfriend snatcher? Some of us are confused and really want to know( we just might be and don't know, lol!). Some people say- most husband/boyfriend snatchers  are ruthlessly ambitious women, who are out to steal your man. They'll deliberately go after a man knowing fully well he is in a committed relationship. They'll lure him into bed, spend his money, break his relationship and in some cases, ensure they become  the "main madam" (wife/girlfriend).They are also tagged as "gboko gboko"(Yoruba slang). 

However, you guys will agree with me that the above exposition should not be generalized. A couple of women that are labelled husband/boyfriend snatchers  do not  "deliberately" date taken men. As a matter of fact, some of these women have no clue these men are in committed relationships. At least, I've got friends who've had nasty experiences with guys who were too cowardly to reveal that they were in committed relationships. These poor girls delve into relationships with these guys, and are later tagged husband/boyfriend snatchers. Don't get me wrong, some girls are just pathological liars, who know from the on-set the guy is taken, but will deny knowing just so they get sympathy from their friends when the chips are down. A few girls have said they didn't have the "intention" to date a taken man.The affair was just so spontaneous, they didn't see it coming.I'm talking about a girl who would on a normal day frown at the thought of dating a married man  but somehow, finds herself sneaking into Oriental hotel with a married man, looking back and forth to see that she's not nabbed. Bridget, a beautiful girl I met a while ago,said she never planned to date her current boyfriend, a married man. May I add that they've been together for six years now. When she met him, she  ignored him for years as dating married men wasn't her style, but he was just so consistent, even more consistent than the single guys she had met. When she needed a kidney transplant, he was her first and only donor, even though she had a single guy that had sworn to jump off the third mainland bridge, if she didn't 'gree'. This was the deal breaker for her. No man had shown her this type of love. Are women in this position excusable or could they still be classified as snatchers? 

Moreover, there are girls who intentionally and consciously date men that are in  committed relationships, especially married men( Awon Ogbologbo!).For starters, the ring on his hand is what stole their hearts, because they translate the ring to mean " no need for a commitment" .Not every woman is looking to be in a committed relationship, in fact, the words "I love you" irk them. Some women would rather go for married men because they get what they want without having to give any sort of commitment. These category of girls say-  they are not trying to take your man permanently, they just want to borrow him for a while.They'll play with your man for a while, strip him off a bit of his cash, and move on, you still get to keep your man!. Are these women also classified as snatchers or can they be excused? After all, they are just borrowing your man for a while. Indeed, some women just enjoy the thrill of sneaking to see their lovers, they heart competition and the joy of being a conqueror(if that's how they see it).

One thing that has been bugging me to no end is the fact that men are never  tagged "wife/girlfriend snatchers" even though we all know there are guys who chase/stalk married women or women in committed relationships. Also, why are people so quick to point the finger at the woman whenever there's a husband snatching scandal? After all, there were two "grown adults" involved in the affair. Wives and girlfriends are quick to  attack their husband/boyfriend's lovers. They do unthinkable things to the "other woman",( acid bathing, shoe throwing, public display of madness, and of course, poo pouring) but  they let it slide with the man. I don't get this, someone please give me an explanation! My last question is-  Can a full grown man  be snatched? Lol! His he a robot that can be programmed with a remote control,  cause personally, I don't get how an adult can be snatched. Could it be that these snatchers  are so powerful that your man can't do otherwise? (okay this is besides a man " to ti jefo" women that use  diabolically means to steal your man).

Is husband snatching really possible? Did Ijeoma really snatch your man, or did your man just want to leave you? Or perhaps you are a Morning-glory, who has a few things to say. Please drop a line............,.


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