ANYONE NEED SECURITY?

Security is freedom from doubt, fear and anxiety. A lot of us have been able to provide ourselves with sufficient security with the help of Atairu, Hassan, barbed wires, security cameras, vigilantes, dogs, and even jazz,(lol!) to give us maximum protection or so we think. But the type of security I'm talking about is 'emotional security' - even the wealthiest have little or no control over it. Are you insecure? Honestly, have you sat down to ask yourself that question? I think to a certain degree, a lot of us are insecure about one thing or another. Insecure about our looks, jobs, relationships, social status, financial position and so on. However, insecurity in relationships is what has captioned my interest.


Insecurity is a feeling of uncertainty, a lack of confidence or assurance. A lot of people have doubts about their partners, probably as a result of lack of trust, low self esteem, jealousy, confusion, paranoia, and the fear of rejection. Do you find yourself snooping on your partner, trying to find out what they're up to, perhaps, if there's another "she/he'?. Are you obsessed with checking your partner's cell phone, pocket, emails and underwear? You can't help but eavesdrop on your partner's conversation because even though the caller ID shows 'Boss' you feel it's actually 'Bose', his sexy co-worker, with hips that sure don't lie! Do you feel the need to be reassured severally that your partner loves you, pestering for those three words, 'I love you'? Or you're worried sick when your partner hasn't called in a day?. Do you fear that you're not good enough for your partner? If you've answered 'yes' to the above questions, you possess traits of an insecure person. But guess what? It's not a sin!


Women tend to be more insecure in relationships. An insecure woman would most likely exhibit either of these traits- keep her distance emotionally; she doesn't like to be too attached to her man for fear of rejection, or she becomes very clingy, and is tagged the 'psycho girlfriend/wife'. Women who are insecure have their reasons, perhaps, it could be their upbringing(dysfunctional background) past relationships ( the loser ex), social and societal factors( the need to be in a relationship), an unfaithful partner, low self esteem,sexual, physical and emotional abuse.

At the end of the day, a lot of us are insecure, even the most beautiful. I've been insecure in the past. Damn! Some guys sure messed with my head, I cant even lie! Whatever your reasons are,one thing I'll say is ' why kill yourself over a guy?' If you don't trust your man, why are you with him again? You go gaga, when you see him with a girl, you squeeze through tiny windows in order to nab him with 'that girl', when he's stepping out, you play detective monitoring his every move, you check his GPS to see the exact miles he covers each day, you pretend to be someone else in a chat group to see if he'll stray, you beg friends and family to monitor him, you pay to track his phone and car or you burst into his house unannounced, omo you get time o!( takes a deep breath). All these will send you to an early grave, it's not worth it!. However, if your insecurities are as a result of a loser ex, sexual abuse, societal pressure, dysfunctional background, and your current man is quite decent,please seek counseling, talk to someone that will guide you, don't let him suffer for another man's sin!


Are you insecure in your relationship? Why are you insecure? How can we overcome them? Please drop a line.........................




















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